The 4 Types Of Friends Recommended By Buddha
– The below is taken from the Sigalovada Sutta
The Buddha spoke of great things during his time on earth and created many sutras for mankind to learn from. His sutra’s had many pearls of wisdom for man to absorb; they even still apply today. They taught compassion to all, regardless of negative actions towards us.
The 4 Types of Friends
Interestingly, Buddha also gave advice for different types of people that we meet in life.
He was especially interested in the friendships we make, because those form our environment and influence us. He described 4 different types of friends we meet and should seek: the helper, the friend who endures in good times and bad, the mentor, and the compassionate friend.
1) The Helper
This person can be identified by four things: protecting you when you are vulnerable, a refuge when you’re afraid, and in various tasks providing double what is requested. One who is always there to give aid when needed, one who asks for little to nothing in return. They will always protect you and show you the way when you are lost or need guidance.
2) The enduring friend
He can be identified by four things: by telling you their secrets, guarding your own secrets closely, not abandoning you in misfortune, and even dying for you. The friend who stands by you through every event in your life, and will always there for you.
The enduring one does not pass judgment but is simply there through it all for you.
3) The mentor
Can be identified by four things: by restraining you from wrongdoing, guiding you towards good actions, telling you what you ought to know, and showing you the path to the heavens. This type is a teacher or parent/caregiver, someone who teaches through love, kindness, their own actions, and compassion. This person has the most patience with you and truly wants to set an example.
4) The compassionate friend
Can be identified by four things: by not rejoicing in your misfortune, delighting in your good fortune, preventing others from speaking ill of you, and encouraging others who praise your good qualities. This person showers you with love, praise and happiness regardless of times.
They are there to hold your hand and support you through everything. They express their love for you through words, actions, and physical touch.
Buddha’s teachings are so profound…it’s hard to really get a grasp with just these few teachings.
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May Dhamma spread!
May the people of the whole world enjoy the best fruits of Dhamma!
May more and more people benefit from the dhamma Post's to live a happy and harmonious life, good for them and good for others!
To hear the Dhamma at the right time.
Everyone who has experienced a word of teaching that touched the heart at just the right moment knows what a precious gift this can be.
May all beings develop pure metta. May dhamma and metta vibrations grow and extend all over the universe.
May all beings be well and happy always.
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Sigālovāda Sutta
https://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/dn/dn.31.0.ksw0.html
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