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Saturday 8 February 2020

When we are angry, is it better to observe it or get rid of it by reciting ‘Buddho’?

The Teaching Of Ajahn Suchart 

12 August 2023

Question from Paris
When we are angry, is it better to observe it or get rid of it by reciting ‘Buddho’?

Than Ajahn:  Well, for some people, if they know that they are angry, by merely know that they are angry, they might be able to stop their anger. If they know that they are angry, but they can’t stop it, then they might have to use a mantra to stop it.

Like when you’re angry and you know that, ‘I’m angry but I cannot stop it,’ then you have to use ‘Buddho, Buddho, Buddho’. Don’t think about the things that make you angry. If you keep thinking about the things that make you angry, you will become more angry. When you switch your mind to think about something else, you’ll forget about the things that make you angry. The anger will eventually disappear. 

So, it can be either way. If you have strong mindfulness, when you’re angry and this anger can disappear by you knowing that you’re angry, then you don’t have to do anything. But if you know that you’re angry and the anger is still there, then you have to use a mantra or use wisdom (common sense) to stop your anger.

Wisdom is common sense. You have to analyse at the things that make you angry. If it’s a person, you ask yourself, ‘Can you change the person? Can you change that person’s action from causing you to get angry?’ If the answer is no, then you have to accept that you can’t change that person’s action. This can minimize or get rid of your anger. You have to look at that person’s action like a natural process.

Like when it rains, can you stop the rain or not? If you know you can’t stop the rain, you won’t get angry at the rain because you know that you can’t control the rain. You let it rain. 

It’s the same way with the action made by that person. If you can’t stop the actions made by that person which make you angry, then you shouldn’t have the desire to stop that action. 

Let it happen. Merely acknowledge the action. 

Don’t try to control that action if you can’t do it.


“Dhamma in English, Mar 28, 2018.”

By Ajahn Suchart Abhijāto
www.phrasuchart.com

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