Being Right Thanissaro Bhikkhu

"How do you deal with people whose views don’t coincide with yours, and whose idea of right and wrong doesn’t coincide with yours? 

Being Right
Thanissaro Bhikkhu 

One possible solution might be to give up your ideas of right and wrong, but that doesn’t work. You don’t feel right inside when you do that. The communities where they say, “We’ll have no right and wrong here; everything is going to be non-dual”: They don’t work. They’re very dysfunctional because right and wrong get shifted around. In other words, people do what they want, and then when anybody complains, the people who complain the ones who are wrong. They’re the ones who are “clinging.” They’re the ones who are “holding on”—  i.e., they are the ones who are wrong. So there is still right and wrong in a place like that, but it’s a strange, twisted standard for right and wrong. It allows people to be harmed, with no recourse to have that harm acknowledged.

The Buddha, however, had a very strong sense of right and wrong. If he hadn’t had a strong sense of right and wrong, he wouldn’t have set forth the Vinaya, he wouldn’t have established the precepts. He wouldn’t have pointed out that there are lots of views out there that are dead wrong, that cause people to suffer, that keep people in the round of rebirth, that prevent them from finding any release. He was very clear about that. And when any of the monks or nuns misbehaved, he was very strong in his criticism."

Being Right
Thanissaro Bhikkhu
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