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Wednesday, 4 November 2020

“The Buddha said: 'Choose your company wisely. Be with someone who is wiser or more skillful…'

 “The Buddha said: 'Choose your company wisely. Be with someone who is wiser or more skillful…'


If you can’t even save yourself, how can you save others? If you don’t know how to swim yourself, how can you help others? You first have to learn how to swim yourself. Once you know how to swim, then you can teach others. Others will have faith in you when you've learnt how. 


Take the Buddha for example. Once he became enlightened, his father as well as many others started having faith in him. They invited him to teach in the palace and soon enough they all became enlightened themselves. 


If the Buddha were to remain in the palace, he wouldn’t have become enlightened. So he went ahead and set an example to prove that it was worthwhile, and then came all the faith and devotees. It is easy to let things happen on their own, that is, naturally. It is much easier than trying to make things happen. It can be very trying to do so as they might be beyond your ability.


It is better to accept that no one has the same amount of merit (puñña) and bad deeds (pāpa) as anyone else. No two people have accumulated the same amount of merit and perfections (pāramı) or have given to the same extent. One person may want to make merit while the other may not. One may enjoy eating and drinking while the other may not. This is due to differences in the cultivation of merit and perfections.


It is just that two people happen to meet and there’s a reason for them to be together, and so they stay together. This is not to say that they should go their separate ways. But whenever they have a chance to do their own thing, then they should. It's good if the other person wants to come along, but it's alright as well if they don't. They have to do it themselves in the end anyway. You can’t eat for them. They have to feed themselves and so do you. When you’re eating and if they don’t feel like it, can you force them to? There’s nothing you can do.


It is the same with meditation practice. It is something that each individual has to do on their own. No one can do it for anyone else. But you can set an example so that it motivates and encourages others.


For example, if you happen to be with someone who is very determined, then their determination will also rub off on you. Like I’ve told you before, I thought that I was already very determined when I was living and practising on my own. But when I was living with others, who were even more determined, I realised that I was still not that committed, which made me even more persistent. But if you happened to be with someone, who is less determined, they would pull you down.


The Buddha said: 'Choose your company wisely. Be with someone who is wiser or more skillful. Or choose those at the same level as you. Don’t choose those who are less wise or virtuous. It is better to be alone if you can’t find someone who is wiser or more skillful. Don’t be with those who are less virtuous as they will pull you down and make you worse off.'


To choose companions for Dhamma practice or spiritual friends (kalyāṇamitta), you have to choose those who are more skilful and better than you. That way they can help and support you, just as all the Buddha’s disciples chose the Buddha himself. They weren’t let down by their choice.


By Ajaan Suchart Abhijāto

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“For those who do good kammas, they become angels or devas. If you can meditate and calm your mind, go to another realm of existence – the Brahma realm.”

The Teaching of Ajahn Suchart.

7 February 2026

“For those who do good kammas, they become angels or devas. If you can meditate and calm your mind, go to another realm of existence – the Brahma realm.”

Question:  What actually are heaven and hell when we passed away? 

Than Ajahn:  When you pass away, your physical body disappears, but your spiritual body still exists. The spiritual body will experience the fruit of your kamma. 

If it has a bad kamma, your spiritual body will experience bad feelings. There are different kinds of bad feelings: bad feelings that arise from hunger, bad feelings that arise from fear, bad feelings that arise from hatred. These are different kinds of bad feelings which you’ve accumulated while you’re still a human being. Your kamma will determine for the mind to go to different levels of existence.  

There are four lower planes of existence: the animal realm, the hungry ghost realm, the fearful ghost realm, and the hell realm. These are the four bad realms for people who did bad kammas.  

For those who do good kammas, they become angels or devas, and the intensity of happiness they experience varies from the amount of good kammas they’ve done. 

The more good kammas, the more happiness they will experience. The happiness is also divided into different levels of happiness – different realms. And if you can meditate and calm your mind, you’ll go to another realm of existence called, ‘the rūpa and arūpa realm’ – the Brahma realm.  

The devas, the humans, and the animals, exist in the sensual realm of existence. They rely on the sensual experiences to make them happy. In Brahma realm, they don’t rely on the sensual experiences to make them happy, they rely on the calming of the mind using samādhi, using mindfulness.  The calmer the mind, the higher Brahma realm that they become.  

If you have vipassanā, your mind will get rid of the causes of your suffering which are three desires: the desire for sensual pleasures, the desire for becoming, and the desire for not becoming. Then, you will have less suffering and will have more happiness. The vipassanā are divided into four levels. 

The first level, you get rid of some of your desires, you become a Sotāpanna.  

The second level, you get rid of more desire, and you become a Sakadāgāmī.  

Then third level, you become an Anāgāmī. 

The fourth level, you become an Arahant. The more desire that you can get rid of, the higher vipassanā level you become. These are all happening in the mind, in the spiritual body.


By Ajaan Suchart Abhijāto

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The Direct Path September 14, 1956

The Direct Path
September 14, 1956


When you fix your attention on the breath, you must try to cut away all outside preoccupations. Otherwise, if you let yourself be distracted, you won’t be able to observe the subtleties of the breath and mind.


The breath energy in the body can be divided into three parts: 


1) One in the heart and lungs, 


2) Another in the stomach and intestines, and 


3) A third in the blood vessels throughout the body.


All three are breaths that are always moving; but there’s another breath—a still breath, light and empty—centered in the diaphragm, between the heart and lungs on the one hand and the stomach and intestines on the other. This breath is motionless, unlike the breath distilled in the heart and lungs. It exerts no pressure on any part of the body at all.


As for the moving breath, when it strikes the blood vessels it feels warm or hot, and sometimes causes excretions in your nose. If the breath is predominant over the fire property, it causes the blood to be cool. If the fire property is predominant over the breath property, it causes the blood to be hot. 


If these properties are combined in the right proportions, they give rise to a feeling of comfort and ease—relaxed, spacious, and still—like having an unobstructed view of the open sky. 


Sometimes there’s a feeling of ease—relaxed, spacious, but moving: This is called pīti, or rapture.


The best breath to focus on is the empty, spacious breath. To make use of the breath means to use whichever feeling is most predominant, as when you feel very relaxed, very empty, or very comfortable. If there’s a feeling of motion, don’t use it. Use just the feelings of emptiness, relaxation, or lightness. 


To use them means to expand their range so that you feel empty in every part of the body. This is called having a sense of how to make use of the feelings you already have. 


But in using these feelings, you have to be completely mindful and alert. Otherwise, when you start feeling empty or light, you might go thinking that your body has disappeared.


In letting these sensations expand, you can let them spread either one at a time or all together at once. The important point is that you keep them balanced and that you focus on the whole body all at once as the single object of your awareness. This is called ekāyana-magga, the direct path. 


If you can master this, it’s like having a white cloth that you can either keep hidden in your fist or spread out for two meters. Your body, although it may weigh 50 kilograms, may feel as light as a single kilogram. This is called mahā-satipaṭṭhāna—the great frame of reference.


When mindfulness saturates the body the way flame saturates every thread in the mantle of a Coleman lantern, the elements throughout the body work together like a group of people working together on a job: Each person helps a little here and there, and in no time at all, almost effortlessly, the job is done. 


Just as the mantle of a Coleman lantern whose every thread is soaked in flame becomes light, brilliant, and white, in the same way if you soak your mind in mindfulness and alertness so that it’s conscious of the entire body, both body and mind will become buoyant. 


When you think using the power of mindfulness, your sense of the body will immediately become thoroughly bright, helping to develop both body and mind. 


You’ll be able to sit or stand for long periods of time without feeling tired, to walk for great distances without getting fatigued, to go for unusually long periods of time on just a little food without getting hungry, or to go without food and sleep altogether for several days running without losing energy.


As for the heart, it will become pure, open, and free from blemish. The mind will become bright, fearless, and strong: 


1) Saddhā-balaṁ: Your sense of conviction will run like a car running without stop along the road; 


2) Viriya-balaṁ: Your persistence will accelerate and advance; 


3) Sati-balaṁ: Your mindfulness and alertness will be robust, capable of knowing both past and future. For instance, knowledge of past lives and knowledge of other beings’ death and rebirth: 


These two kinds of intuition are essentially forms of mindfulness. Once your mindfulness is fully developed, it can give you knowledge of people’s past actions and lives.


4) Samādhi-balaṁ: Your concentration will become unwavering and strong. No activity will be able to kill it. In other words, no matter what you’re doing—sitting, standing, talking, walking, whatever—as soon as you think of practicing concentration, your mind will immediately be centered. 

 

Whenever you want it, just think of it and you’ve got it. When your concentration is this strong, insight meditation is no problem. 


5) Paññā-balaṁ: Your insight will be like a double-edged sword. Your insight into what’s outside will be sharp; your insight into what’s inside will be sharp.


When these five strengths appear in the heart, the heart will be fully mature. ‘Saddh’indrīyaṁ viriy’indrīyaṁ sat’indrīyaṁ samādh’indrīyaṁ paññ’indrīyaṁ’: Your conviction, persistence, mindfulness, concentration, and discernment will be mature and pre-eminent in their own spheres. It’s the nature of mature adults that they cooperate. When they work together on a job, they finish it. So it is when you have these five adults working together for you: You’ll be able to complete any task. Your mind will have the power to demolish every defilement in the heart, just as a nuclear bomb can demolish anything anywhere in the world.


When your mind has this sort of power, liberating insight will arise like a lance with sharp edges on all four sides or a power saw whose blade has teeth all the way around. The body is like the stand on which the saw rests; the mind is the circular blade: Wherever it spins, it can cut through whatever is fed into it. This is the nature of liberating insight.


These are some of the results that come from knowing how to refine the breath and how to expand the still breath so that it benefits both body and mind. We should take these matters to heart and put them into practice as we are able, so as to share in these benefits.


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The Direct Path from Inner Strength & Parting Gifts: Talks by Ajaan Lee Dhammadharo, translated by Ṭhānissaro Bhikkhu

https://www.dhammatalks.org/books/InnerStrength/Section0015.html




Tuesday, 3 November 2020

“Such an offering is a gesture of respect.”

The Teaching of Ajahn Suchart.

12 March 2026

“Such an offering is a gesture of respect.”

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Question: Out of compassion for your students, may Tan Ajahn live a long time.

Tan Ajahn: I will have compassion as long as this body allows. When the body breaks down I won’t be able to do anything about it. I can’t control it. May the students also have compassion for the teacher. May they take what is taught to heart and put it into practice.

When the students don’t practice, the teacher feels weary. Sometimes whatever is taught goes in one ear and right out the other. Even though they come back days or months later, they still haven’t changed at all. 

When this happens the teacher gets discouraged. The students are stuck in 1st grade and refuse to move on to 2nd or 3rd. 

They don’t want to graduate college at all.

Oh, be considerate of the person teaching as well! It’s not just for the teacher to have loving kindness. Really, the student should have loving kindness for the teacher as well. If the students complete their studies, then “Oh!” It will really encourage the teacher to live a long time because then he sees the results coming from his teaching.

There really is nothing like seeing people free themselves from suffering. Seeing people cry is so sad; wouldn’t it be better to see them laughing? 

Wouldn’t it be better to see them happy? Truly, once we attain to the Dhamma, we can laugh even when we are sick and dying because Dhamma teaches us to know that the body is not us or ours.

The body is but a house on fire, a mountain that weighs down the heart. Every day we feel burdened and heavy-hearted because of the issues related to the body, making a living, and maintaining our body so that it can live free from illness. All these things revolve around the body. If there were no body, we would be light-hearted. Or to get the same result while there is a body, we do not attach to it or believe it to be ourselves.

May you have compassion for your teacher and go practise. 

Then you can come back and tell me, “Now I’m so happy! I’m no longer bothered by my body at all. If something happens to it, even if it dies, I can accept it.

It’s not a problem at all.” If that happens, out of compassion I will live a long time.

“Mountain Dhamma.”


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QuestionIs it possible to make Luangta Mahā Boowa live longer if all his students were to pool together their effort and practice?

Than Ajahn: It's not possible. His body is subject to its own causes and conditions. [The merit of a well-trained mind] applies to the one who practises.

You may offer it, but it doesn't guarantee that the outcome will be according to your wish. Such an offering is a gesture of respect.

He doesn't want anything from you, nothing at all. He is fully self-sufficient. His body is not him; it's just like a vehicle. It won't run when it becomes obsolete. The body is like a car: it will fall apart when it's time. No one can prevent it. If one could extend another person's life through merit-making, the Buddha would still be living today.

In the case of Venerable Ānanda, the Buddha meant that his body could still last and he would be able to live with an extra care. 

Without such a care, it would expire sooner. 

The Buddha tried to let Venerable Ānanda know, as it would require him to care for the Buddha, but Venerable Ānanda didn't clue in and let that opportunity pass. Venerable Ānanda himself was reprimanded three months after the Buddha's death when there was a congregation of the five-hundred noble disciples to agree on the Buddha's teachings. 

Venerable Ānanda said he didn't understand what the Buddha had meant when he could have pleaded with the Buddha to stay longer.

The four bases of mental power (iddhipāda), consisting of purpose (chanda), effort (viriya), mind (citta), and investigation (vımaṃsā) are the power of the Dhamma, which will help sustain the body longer, in comparison to the mind that is without the will or power to live on. The body can be in a good shape but it won't be able to go on if the mind doesn't care for the body. It won't make the body eat, sleep, exercise, and take medications. 

A neglected body is bound to deteriorate rather quickly.

This is contrary to a body that is well taken care of—being full of will and energy because it is the mind that looks after the body. 

The Buddha had the will to look after his body, but he would also need the help of others. 

Without an assistant, he wouldn't be able to make it. 

The assistant, himself, would have to devote his own time.

Venerable Ānanda, at the time, had yet to attain enlightenment and so the Buddha didn't want to detract him from his path. He wanted to let Venerable Ānanda practise as he wished. If he wanted to continue being the Buddha's attendant, it would have to be out of his own will. 

Without a proper offer for his service, it was construed as unwilling. Venerable Ānanda wasn't wise enough to catch on to the Buddha's words and when he did, it was already too late; the Buddha only had three months by then.

The Buddha wouldn't change his mind once it had already been made up. [The four bases of mental power to save his body] refer to his willingness (chanda) to live for the sake of others or the world. It's out of his empathy and compassion for those in need. Even on the very last night before he went onto the final realm, he was still teaching and answering to the very last person. 

Venerable Ānanda didn't allow that person to see the Buddha, but the Buddha insisted on letting the person in to see him. 

This was out of his boundless compassion for all sentient beings.

The Buddha had already made up his mind about leaving and wouldn't change it. He took into consideration the number of five-hundred-some noble disciples who would carry on teaching on his behalf. 

He was certain that all the sentient beings won't be without a refuge. 

He said, 'You all won't be without a teacher, for it is my teachings—Dhamma-Vinaya—that will be your teacher'.

All the noble disciples, with the minimum of five-hundred of them, would be the ones who carried out the teaching of Dhamma-Vinaya.

So don't overreact when it comes to any teacher's passing. 

It is just a matter of time, which is only natural and expected. All Luangta's teachings have already been recorded, which will be just as useful whether he is still alive or not. When you visit any teacher, it is not to see his body but to seek out his Dhamma. So why don't you seek out and listen to his Dhamma which is still available?


“Essential Teachings.”

By Ajahn Suchart Abhijāto
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"What was the Buddha’s advice on how to practise?

"What was the Buddha’s advice on how to practise? 


He taught to practise like the earth; practise like water; practise like fire; practise like wind. Practise like the ‘old things’, the things we are already made of: the solid element of earth, the liquid element of water, the warming element of fire, the moving element of wind.  


If someone digs the earth, the earth is not bothered. It can be shovelled, tilled, or watered.  


Rotten things can be buried in it. But the earth will remain indifferent. Water can be boiled or frozen or used to wash something dirty; it is not affected. Fire can burn beautiful and fragrant things or ugly and foul things - it doesn’t matter to the fire.  


When wind blows, it blows on all sorts of things; fresh and rotten, beautiful and ugly, without concern. 


The Buddha used this analogy.  The aggregation that is us is merely a coming together of the elements of earth, water, fire and wind. If you try to find an actual person there, you can’t. There are only these collections of elements. 


But for all our lives, we never thought to separate them like this to see what is really there; we have only thought, ‘This is me, that is mine.’ We have always seen everything in terms of a self, never seeing that there is merely earth, water, fire and wind. 


But the Buddha teaches in this way. He talks about the four elements and urges us to see that this is what we are. There are earth, water, fire and wind; there is no person here.  


Contemplate these elements to see that there is no being or individual, but only earth, water, fire and wind."


 ~ Ajahn Luang Por Chah

 "Wholehearted Training"




Sunday, 1 November 2020

Merits - Can they be transferred? ~ By Ven Aggacitta

Merits - Can they be transferred?
~ By Ven Aggacitta


It is the Chinese belief that the spirit of a departed person will hang around for 49 days before moving on to another realm of proper rebirth. The Theravada scriptures, however, do not explicitly mention such an intermediate stage. Even so, many of us must have heard about or even experienced situations where the spirits of the departed return to contact the living. In one of his talks, Ajahn Brahm, who was initially sceptical about such occurrences, eventually came to entertain the possibility that there could be an intermediate life because he could not deny the many cases of real-life experiences that he had heard from his devotees where the deceased returned to contact the living.

Before beginning this talk, we chanted two suttas. 

The first is the Karaniya Metta Sutta – radiating metta to beings far and wide. 

In this sutta, the Buddha did not give instructions to the monks to radiate metta to oneself first followed by others, as is the norm during our usual metta meditation sessions. This sequence is actually found in the VisuddhiMagga which was written by Buddhaghosa during the 5th century AD, about 900 years after the Buddha’s parinibbana. The VisuddhiMagga was based on the tradition of the elders of the MahaVihara monastery, the centre of Theravada Buddhism in Sri Lanka at that time.

In the Karaniya Metta Sutta, the Buddha started by describing the qualities of the monk who wants to practice metta. The monk then wishes all beings peace and happiness first, followed by other specific beings, seen and unseen, near and far, beings in all the directions throughout the universe. The sutta concludes by saying that one who radiates metta in this way can eventually go beyond sensual pleasures to achieve liberation.

The second sutta is the Tirokudda Sutta – Behind the Wall Discourse from the 5th Nikaya. In the first verse of this sutta the word peta is mentioned. Most Buddhists equate this word to a “hungry ghost” i.e. a ghost in a miserable state of existence. In this sutta however, peta refers to “the departed ones” – not necessarily a hungry ghost only. The earlier Nikayas and Vinaya Pitaka define peta in this same way. The first verse starts off by saying that the living, having prepared a sumptuous meal, do not invite the departed to enter the dwelling to partake of the food. This is due to the departed ones' past unskillful kamma and therefore they have to gather outside at the road corners, compounds, doors and windows, etc.

The second verse mentions that people who have compassion for the deceased should actually prepare suitable food and dedicate them to their departed souls. 

What is given to them reaches the departed as sure as “rainwater flows from the hills down to the sea”. After dana, we frequently chant these lines from this verse : 

“Idam vo ñatinam hotu sukhita hontu ñatayo”. 

We are actually saying : 

“May this be for you all departed relatives, may (you) relatives be well and happy.”


[NB: 

Sometimes different words are used. Instead of “Idam vo ñatinam”, “Idam no/me ñatinam” are chanted. They can all be used, but they have slightly different meanings:

vo means “you all”

no means “our”

me means “my”.]

In their world the departed have no means of making a living because they can’t engage in the usual worldly occupations like farming, cattle rearing, trading, etc. 

They have to depend on these offerings. Out of gratitude, the departed in turn wish their living relatives good welfare and longevity.

Recently, someone sent me an article titled “The So-Called Transference of Merits” written by a scholar. 

This scholar researched the whole concept of transference of merits in the scriptures. It says that in the early suttas, there is no mention of transference of merits. For example, in the Sigalovada Sutta (DN 31) and Adiya Sutta (AN 5:41), it is the actual giving of material food and offerings to the departed that was praised by the Buddha. 

However, in the later texts of the Nikayas and commentaries, transference of merits was mentioned. A question arises: “How can merits be shared?”

According to the Theravada understanding of the Law of Kamma, we are the makers and heirs of our own kamma. 

Therefore, there is no question of “sharing/transferring” meritorious kamma to another. The concept of transference of merits contradicts this understanding.

For example, NidhiKanda Sutta (Khp 8) mentions that the kusala/wholesome things that we do are not common to other people, i.e. they cannot be shared. In Culasaccaka Sutta (MN 35), a person engaged in a debate wth the Buddha. When he lost, he was sporting enough to invite the Buddha and the Sangha for dana. He also invited his supporters to give him offerings so that he could offer them at the dana. After dana, he dedicated the merits attained to all those who have participated in the offering. 

The Buddha then told him that the merit gained by his supporters when they gave the food to an unpurified person like him would be for themselves whereas the different type of merit that he gained when he offered it to a purified person like the Buddha was accrued to himself only. Here, the Buddha appears to be saying that merits cannot be shared.

This is a different scenario from that seen in Nandamata Sutta (AN 7:53). One early morning, Nanda’s mother was happily chanting some verses from the Sutta Nipata when she suddenly heard a voice saying, “Sadhu, Sadhu, Sadhu!” 

She looked around in surprise. At that moment, Vesavana, King of the Yakkhas was actually passing by. When he heard the melodious chant, he stopped to listen and was so delighted that he cried, “Excellent!” When Nanda’s mother discovered that it was King Vesavana, she happily told him to let her chanting be a visitor’s gift to him. In return, King Vesavana informed her that the Venerables Sariputta and Moggallana will be arriving this way tomorrow with the whole community of monks and advised her to prepare breakfast for them. She should then dedicate the merits accrued to him.

The next day, after the dana, Venerable Sariputta asked Nanda’s mother how she knew that the monks were passing this way. She told him the story of King Vesavana, after which she dedicated the merit and its fruit for the happiness of the king. In this sutta it would seem that merit could apparently be 'transferred' for Venerable Sariputta did not object to Nandamata’s dedication, unlike the case of Culasaccaka.

There appears to be some sort of inconsistency here. In the end verse of the Kaladana Sutta (AN 5:36), the Buddha said that all those who either gave dana or offered their services as well as those who were not involved at all but witnessed the offering and then rejoiced in it, share the same amount of merits. It is clear now that while merit cannot actually be shared or transferred (for each of us is the heir of our own karma), it can be gained when a person rejoices in the good that is done. Merit is thus 'shared' in this way.

In conclusion, I don’t know whether the idea of the departed returning to say goodbye within the 49 days time lapse is something that happens generally for all cultures or it is only found in the Far East because we are conditioned by our cultural circumstances. We think we ought to be there for 49 days, therefore we are stuck there for 49 days. There doesn’t seem to be this kind of report coming from the West.

I am currently reading a book titled “The Journey of Souls”  by Dr. Michael Newton, a psychotherapist who did several years of research compiling case studies of his clients on past-life regression. 

In many cases, he found that it is quite universal that when one dies, one does not get reborn immediately but goes on to an intermediate state where one's disembodied spirit is very much attached to the old body and surroundings. 

Depending on the degree of attachment, the length in the intermediate stage varies. One who is very attached to his past life stays longer whereas a highly developed person – an 'old soul' (as opposed to a 'young soul') goes on to another state which is higher than this earthly plane but is not yet a rebirth.

As Buddhists, you might feel uncomfortable that the word “soul” is used here because the Buddha talked about anatta (no self/no soul) and we always link the word to the Christian/ Indian concept of a permanent unchanging entity. 

However, the use of the word “soul” here refers to the group of 5 aggregates that are in the process of evolution. A 'young soul' is not spiritually developed and has a lot of worldly attachments whereas an 'old soul' has gone through a lot of lessons in his previous lives and is spiritually more matured.

Such a disembodied spirit might be restricted in their movements by certain laws that we do not yet understand. 

So, when we invite them to partake of the food offered, perhaps they rejoice in the good that we do and in this way, they create merits for themselves. As I said in the last part of my book "Honouring the Departed", giving dana is a low end type of merit-making. Apparently, the beneficiary of our dana must be aware that we are offering the dana and they must rejoice in order to be able to benefit from it. 

For the high-end type of merit-making such as chanting, metta/vipassana meditation, this awareness may not be required.


Sadhu! Sadhu! Sadhu!




“You’re to radiate loving-kindness when you’re meeting people.”

“You’re to radiate loving-kindness when you’re meeting people.”

Question from Singapore: After I finish my sitting meditation, do I need to radiate loving kindness to myself, my loved ones and those unfriendly ones?

Than Ajahn:  This radiation of loving-kindness is a myth. It’s not real. You are not radiating anything to anybody. The purpose of reciting the loving-kindness sutta is to teach you how to be loving-kindness when you meet people.

You’re to radiate loving-kindness when you’re meeting people. Like when you know it’s someone’s birthday, then you’ll buy some gifts for him/her – this is radiating loving-kindness;

When someone does something wrong to you, you’ll forgive them – this is radiating loving-kindness; If you are angry and when you want to hurt someone, you’ll say, ‘No, I shouldn’t do it.’ – this is radiating loving-kindness. So, you do it when you meet people or animals. It’s not when you sit alone by yourself and radiate it – this is a lot of bs.


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Question: After doing loving-kindness meditation, can I continue to do transference of merits?

Than Ajahn:  This kinds of merit hasn’t been fruitful yet.

Your practice hasn’t yet created any real merit. What you’ve been doing is just trying to create one. This is important. 

You have to practice a lot before you can get the result. Once you have the result, then you can share this merit with those who have no physical bodies, those who live in the spiritual world.

So, normally we don’t share this kind of loving-kindness transference of merits because we usually don’t have them yet. 

It’s easier to share merits by giving dāna because once you give something to others, you’ve already had merits from that giving. Then, you can share the merits right away.

“Dhamma in English, Q&A session, May 16, 2018.”

By Ajahn Suchart Abhijāto
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